Closure: What is closure, and why does it matter after a breakup?

Breaking up can be very challenging and heartbreaking. Detaching yourself from your loved ones and their memories can be upsetting; it requires time and space. Moving on is not easy; you are constantly in pain, you constantly have flashbacks and you constantly miss your ex. There is no escape from heartbreaking process of breaking up; you don’t know what to do with all the memories, gifts and things you’ve learned about them; they keep floating around in your head, and you keep checking your phone to see if they called or missed a text. In a moment of weakness, you end up calling them and regretting it. Yes, it’s hard to move on, but not until you’ve done it closing.

What is closure?

Closure means find peace and accept the situation when the relationship has ended. You understand the situation, reflect on your feelings and let go, rather than having a negative mindset, and move on without holding any grudges.

Here are some reasons why closure after a breakup is important:

Helps find peace: Closure can help you find peace. It gives you the right to close the chapter and free yourself from the pain and agony. It also helps to regain focus and work on yourself, and you don’t weigh unresolved feelings.
Helps you move forward: Closure helps you move on in your life rather than thinking about what went wrong and why it went wrong and filling your head with all the guilt and all the questions. You can move forward and let go of the guilt and the questions.
Promotes emotional healing: Closure gives you time and space to heal; you can process your feelings and allow yourself to heal from the pain of your breakup. It gives you a chance to acknowledge your feelings and release yourself from the pain, anger, sadness and disappointment.
Opens opportunities for new beginnings: Closure can help you move on and open up to new possibilities and experiences; you can focus on yourself and make better decisions in life.
Detachment: Closure helps you detach from your ex-partner. This can help you move on and not hold on to the bad experience of your previous relationship.